Attachment Styles

A hug from an old friend. Your mother’s spaghetti bolognese. Winning $10,000 in the lottery. These are all things that fucking suck compared to this episode of Roommate Lovers. 

Questions include: 

• What should I say when meeting my partner’s parents?

• What is my attachment style?

• How long before someone’s leftovers become fair game?

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QUESTIONS THIS EP:
Not a huge issue but I would love to know how I should react when my climbing partner doesn't manage to get to the top of a route that I can get easily.

Yesterday she said one thing that really annoys her is that whenever she isn't successful in a climb I say something like "aww", or "ah you were so close!". I was always just trying to be supportive, or show how I was also disappointed that she didn't make it,. To be honest it wasn't even something I thought about. But she says it makes her feel like I'm mocking her. I feel like it would be weird to just stay completely silent, so my question is what would be a better reaction?

I am an organized person. When I travel, I book my flights well in advance. This usually lets me claim my preferred seat: on the aisle in the bulkhead row. I have long legs, and those seats tend to provide

more legroom - not that I have to justify myself. This brings me to my problem: The last two times I've flown, a steward asked me to change seats to accommodate a parent flying alone with small children.

My moving would allow them to sit together. But I didn't want to move! (They could have booked in advance, too.) So, I politely refused. Several passengers made nasty comments. Was I wrong to hold my ground?

LISSA

Alias:  *The Phantom Friends

Where are you writing us from? Charlotte, NC

How long can left overs be in the fridge before they are fair game 

I’m meeting my partners parents for the first time–any advice? 

Dear Abby: My telephone just rang. It was a doctor telling me that my sixteen-year-old daughter was just in his office asking for birth control pills. Abby, what are these young people doing to us mothers? I knew she had a steady boyfriend, but I never dreamed they were in need of anything like that. I am heartsick. I tried to raise that girl right. Where have I failed?

• ASHAMED TO SIGN MY NAME 

Attachment styles

Amir Levine, neuroscientist

on NPR’s Life Kit podcast

Son Of A Barber

Never. That’s the answer to the question, “Has there ever been a relationship advice podcast episode more entertaining and informative than this one?” 

Questions include: 

• Why do I have to cook and clean?

• What do I say when I approach a girl?

• Has anyone seen Popeye??

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ALIAS: Phantom Friends

 Where are you writing us from? My house

Why do I have to cook AND clean?

How Do I tell my roommate that I have other plans that does not involve her. 

So my roommate and I we are in the same office but in different teams. She is not really friends with my team. Now my team is planning to go clubbing. My roommate is planning too, both want to go on the same day and I have not told her that I have plans with my team. I feel bad about leaving her alone as she is new in the city and we are close(kinda) but my team is not really comfortable with her . I have 5 hours to decide.

Dear Abby:  As I write this, I am nearly blinded by tears. My husband told our seventeen-year-old son that if he didn’t come home with a haircut tonight, he didn’t have to come home at all. It is midnight, and Jon is not home yet. Why should something like the length of a boy’s hair make such a difference to a father? Jon is not a “bad” boy. All the boys he goes with have long hair. 

• HEARTBROKEN MOTHER

What Blockbuster Title would You Give Your New Porno?

Should I eat McDonald or spinach 

I'm really craving McDonald's but I ate a tacos on Tuesday. the choice is hard. please help.

What to say when approach a girl

I don't have problem with approaching girls, but when I do it, I don't know what to say. 

Rules To Surviving A Horror Movie

The podcast is coming from INSIDE YOUR EARS?! 

Adam Peacock, host of MY NEIGHBORS ARE DEAD, is our phone-a-friend this week and answers a question (24:40).

Other questions include:  

• What to do if you can't fall asleep after sex?

• Insta poll on partner's weirdest quirks?

• Should I move out of my boyfriend's apartment because of spiders HALP?

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Questions Asked This Episode:

VOICEMAIL: I'm not done. Kyle Maggie, Rolando here. I've got a question about S-E-X. Sex, sex, sex. Once I'm done with orgasm—climax, when I’m done having sex. I have a bad problem of not going to sleep. There's usually the problem when I’m at the lady's house and it's not my bed and I feel weird and I can't sleep. Many nights where I feel so so, leave and that's kind of a bad move the same time. There's many times where I'm just staring at the wall or pretended to go to the bathroom and just on my phone — any advice? Love the podcast five stars. Love you all.

What are your rules to surviving a horror movie?

Possibly poorly placed lava lamp

Hello there. I’m currently high sitting in my bedroom staring at my lava lamp. My lava lamp is on top of my radiator. Is this dangerous? I don’t want to cause no explosions

I just moved in with my bf and there's lots of spiders. Should I move back out? 

I woke him up to get rid of one, and it ran away. Then, another two came running out from under the couch and hid again. I poked my shoes 'cause I was putting all my stuff on the couch so the spiders wouldn't crawl in them, and another one came out.

They're not small spiders. He said he had killed lots in the past week. I can't sleep, I feel itchy, and every time I close my eyes, I see spiders. There is obviously a spider problem here. I feel like crying. I can't live with my bf if there's going to be spiders here. What should I do?

Dating Apps Explained

FINALLY. The Roommate Lovers are joined by dating-app-and-Disney-Channel-Original-Movie expert Jake Farrington of Give Me That D, who breaks it allll down. 

Other questions include:  

• What do I do about my stinky husband?

• What do I do about a boyfriend who keeps eating my chocolate?

• Does wood grow on trees?

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QUESTIONS ASKED:

Alias:  *   Florida Man

Where are you writing us from?   Florida

Okay this whole swiping thing is bullshit. I accidentally swipe the wrong way and that’s it. This shit is so sensitive. It feels like a scam. I accidentally swipe the wrong way and poof, the damage is done. I miss the good ole days. :(

Dear Abby

What would you do with a man who refuses to use a deodorant, seldom bathes, and doesn’t even own a toothbrush?

• Stinky’s Wife

Clean your home before inviting a date over. 

Whilst we're there for you, not the location it's a turn off, it makes us uncomfortable, and there's definitely no way I'm taking my clothes off in a dirty, cluttered smelly home. Open the windows and turn the air on that day, spray some room spray.

A few spaces of clutter is okay, but everywhere? Floor? Every corner. No clean dishes so we're eating take out? No baby I still need a plate. Have something to serve as a drink better than tap water out a plastic cup.

My boyfriend ate my chocolate, I'm upset about it and he acts like it's no big deal

I (21f) thought for a very long time that I just didn't like chocolate. Until one of my friends who has moved to Europe send me some Swiss chocolate, and it's awesome. 

My birthday was two weeks ago, my friend send me quite a bit of chocolate, and my boyfriend (26m) ate all of it. When I asked him where it went he told me he had 'some' and that he'll buy me some more. But the chocolate here just doesn't taste good to me. 

I told him that, and he thinks I'm overreacting. When I asked him why he ate my chocolate instead of going to the store and just getting some for himself he told me that he 'just had a small piece and couldn't stop because it's so good.' 

It seems silly, but I only eat chocolate once a year around my birthday, not to mention that it was a gift from a friend. I'm upset that he'd just eat all of it, without asking, and then tell me I'm overreacting.

Does wood grow on trees?

My friend says that wood doesn’t grow on trees because it is tree. But I think that’s the same as it growing on it.

The Blood Moon Rises

Nothing’s gonna stop the Roommate Lovers from answering relationship questions, not even a scary moon that makes monsters come back to life, haha what? 

Questions include: 

• How do I ask for space without hurting their feelings?

• Should I break up with my fiance for not wanting a Star Wars wedding?

• What do I say to friends who didn’t tell me about my husband’s affairs?

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QUESTIONS ASKED THIS EP:

Alias:  The Phantom Friends

Where are you writing us from: Charlotte

How do you ask for more space without hurting someone's feelings 

Just opened instagram to my crushes post. 

She posted a half naked mirror pic with her new bf holding her waist. Looks like she just got done doing the dirty. Fml 🥲

AITA for wanting a Star Wars Wedding

Ever since I was a little Padawan I have dreamed of having a star wars wedding. Traditionally I know the girl gets to pick how the wedding will go. However, I want a star wars wedding, I am talking my dog dressed as Chewbacca, storm trooper ushers, a light saber first dance, my crew dressed as the crew from the millennium falcon. The works.

I also want a LOTR fellowship ring for my wedding ring.

I currently am dating a beautiful girl and really think she is my Leia. She loves movies, my dog, we get along great. However she refuses to have a star wars wedding and wants to go the traditional route. I am at the point that I either don't want to pay for the wedding or may even end the relationship all together.

Please advise, AITA???

There's an amazing girl that likes me, and I like her too but I'm just not looking for a relationship; what should I do?

There's this girl that likes me, and she is literal perfection. I really like her and she's the only girl that I talk to. She's absolutely gorgeous. However, I am in to working out and am trying to go on a self improvement journey, where distractions will not be tolerated. I probably sound like an absolute douchebag here but I just don't know if I'm ready for something like this. 

Also, I just want to mention that this girl is way out of my league, and is literally what every guy dreams about. 

What should I do?

Dear Abby: What do you think of parents who have decided to call it quits after 51 years of marriage? The have four married children, thirteen grandchildren, and three great-grandchildren. They were never exactly lovebirds, but it never came to a real separation before. I am the eldest daughter and Mama called me and told me to come get her, as Papa had moved to a motel and she wasn’t going to stay in the house alone. It’s been three days, and Papa is still holed up in the motel. My oldest brother telephoned Papa and asked what he should tell people. Papa said, “Tell them I’ve entered my second childhood and I have the measles!” Then he slammed down the telephone. Sp what should we tell people?

-Embarrassed

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Blood moon rises trivia section

My Friends Make Fun Of My Girlfriend

The only difference between solid gold and this episode is NOTHING.  

Questions include:  

• Did my mother-in-law bug my house?

• Why do I have to cook and clean?

• Is my girlfriend too obsessed with Pokemon?

AND. The episode the Roommate Lovers get a little help from Chance Nichols.

Check out Chance's podcast We Didn't Peak wherever you podcast.

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I Think My MIL Has Our House Bugged. Husband Thinks I’m Paranoid. Help 

So before we got married my husband’s mother was very strict with us not having sex before marriage. If we were in her house in his bedroom she’d make a habit of walking in if we were too quiet. We soon got creative. 

Then when we got married she was super upset that her baby was going to lose his virginity. It creeped us out but we chose to ignore it for the sake of keeping the peace.

When we got our own place soon after the wedding, we gave both our parents a set of spare keys because we work long hours and have a dog. Recently my MIL has had a stick up her arse about us having sex.

We were going to cut her off but she moved in husband’s sick grandmother so we need to see her in order to see the grandmother.

As of the past month every time we go to do it, regardless of time or room it seems like she will either call us until we answer (given the grandmother situation we don’t dodge calls just in case.) or she’ll come over with an excuse that she thought we were working. I feel like she’s somehow bugged the house but I can’t find any evidence. My husband thinks it’s just bad timing.

Am I insane?

Alias:  *

The Phantom Friends

Where are you writing us from? Charlotte

Whats the minimum situation where you throw your sheets away vs. just washing them. 

Dear Abby: I am not for killing anything except in self-defense, but squirrels can be a real nuisance. I once had a fairly tame squirrel come into my yard regularly to get a sunflower seeds from my birdfeeder. That naughty squirrel damaged my expensive new feeder with his sharp teeth and claws. At first I was very angry. Then I realized he was probably so hungry he just had to get at those sunflower seeds somehow. I didn’t shoot him, but I did put Vaseline on the pole so he couldn’t climb up to the feeder. - LOVES ANIMALS

My(m21) gf(f23) obsession with Pokemon is embarassing me

So my gf loves pokemon. Sometimes when we go out she will ask me if it's alright if she checks for some pokestops on pokemon go. When someone we know talks about pokemon my gf gets really excited and want to be friends on pokemon go right away.

She also has many pokemon plushies, all of them in our shared bedroom. At first it was cute, but my friends are starting to make fun of me for dating a child.

My gf is very mature and an amazing partner but when I brought up how her obsession with Pokemon is embarrassing for her age she felt insulted and told me her liking and playing pokemon is no different than me playing LOL and minecraft. Still my buddies are making fun of us and I'm afraid she will get hurt once she hears them. 

What to do? How to convince her she should maybe tone it down a little? My friends are visiting us and I'm sure they will make fun of her once they will see all of her plushies.

Phone a friend:

Chance Nichols, We Didn’t Peak Podcast

@ChanceIsLoud

I need messed up questions to ask the boys at work.

Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine’s Day, Roommate Lovers lovers. You’re gonna fall head over heels for this episode and it has nothing to do with the fact that we hired a baby with wings to shoot you with a magic arrow. 

Questions include: 

• My partner won't spend Valentine's with me?

• What day is Galentine's Day?

• Is asking for a laser hair removal for VD weird??

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QUESTIONS ASKED THIS EPISODE:

Partner (28F) refuses to spend Valentine’s day with me (28F) 

Hey! I’m 28F and my girlfriend Jade is 28F. We’ve been together for 4 years. 

Every year for Valentine’s day, Jade spends the entire day and evening with her best friend Brooke. They call it ‘Gal-entine’s Day’ and started this tradition when they were younger and single. The first year we were dating, I didn’t think anything of it because we were a fairly new couple. the second year I was a bit bummed out and told Jade that and said maybe next year we can spend it together and she said yeah maybe. The third year I asked again and she said no, it’s her and Brookes day. Now we’re coming up on our fourth Valentine’s day and I’m wondering how to handle this. Brooke has been single this entire time.

Do men expect Valentines Day gifts (early in the relationship)? 

So I've been seeing this guy for a little over 2 months, so it's not an actual relationship. Valentines day is coming up. Should I get him something? Is he expecting that I get him something? Is it too soon for me to expect something from him? FYI: he hasn't gotten me any gifts and I don't want to be the first to initiate it. I'm old fashioned in the sense that I feel like the guy needs to make the first move.

 Asking your girlfriend out on Valentine’s Day 

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years now she sent me a tiktok stating “when he thinks just cause he’s my boyfriend he doesn’t have to ask me to be my valentine” like I get the gesture is cute but personally it’s kind of ridiculous to ask every year , no? Then she calls me not romantic when I am very well romantic. 

So now she’s just putting me down because I have a difference of opinion than she does?

My gf wants a laser hair removal as a gift for Valentine's day 

We have just been dating since October last year so its a new relationship. The topic we were discussing was gift on Valentines day, and I asked her if she wanted something specific or shall I surprise her? Well she asked for a full body laser hair removal, lol. I have never had a gf ask me for this, so my question is this- is this a red flag? And do I still have to give her any gifts after this?

Should I get send her a valentines gift?

Hey guys, so I’m new here (I apologise if this is not the correct sub for this). I wanted to ask an opinion on something. I’ve been talking to this girl since the end of August. Some background: we haven’t met in person yet because it’s long distance and we both have very busy work lives. 

We get on like a house on fire, talk pretty much everyday, call when we both have time. We sent each other Christmas presents. I wanna get her something for valentines, but I don’t know if it’s too soon. Part of me is thinking ‘well, we exchanged Christmas gifts so why not surprise her for valentines’ but I feel like maybe valentines is a little more serious?

Doin' It Food

Call us a baby, folks, cuz this podcast is one year old. Goo goo ga ga, which in baby language, that means thanks for sticking with us through 50 episodes. 

Questions include:

• What’s the best food to eat before sex?

• Why should I take my fiancé’s name?

• Is my boyfriend TOO into Star Wars?

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QUESTIONS ASKED THIS EP:

My boyfriend has an obsession with Star Wars and its affecting our relationship. 

So ever since my boyfriend and me have been together (almost 2 years) he’s always talked about star wars. I’ve always been completely fine with it - to me it seemed like a healthy liking but recently I’ve been noticing that he’s starting watching them at night too. I woke up a few days ago and noticed he had been up all night watching some of the films, he literally looked like a zombie by that point. I also noticed he was also sitting too close to the screen.

He also refuses to watch anything else, and the merch is starting to take over our tiny apartment.

Every-time I see him he calls me ‘General kanobe’??

Any advice would be appreciated, i cant go on like this any longer.

VOICEMAIL:

Kyle maggie, this is Rolando back at again. I have a question about food and sex life. So I like to cook for people and many times before I have cooked for many gals and later have had sex afterwards, but I have realized much of the food that I know how to make is kind of heavy and not that good for good sex. Is there any food you recommend wage for great sex? Love to hear a response.

I love my GF but I want to be with other girls

Ok so to get you sorta up to speed, Im (19M) and i just moved to a new city 6 months ago as a virgin. I met a girl on tinder (22F) and weve been dating for 6 months now. (shes been with multiple guys) I love her so much and our relationship is solid, but lately ive had this doubt, not about her but about myself. Part of me still wants to experience other girls and not have been with only one my whole life. Im worried if i stay with her it could turn into resentment and ill regret not trying new things in my 20s and basically feel like I missed out. I would never cheat and I dont really believe in open relationships, I just wish i met her in my 30s so id have the experience to know how I truly felt. I feel selfish but I also think having these thoughts the rest of my life with her are dangerous and unfair to her.

Any advice/perspectives (preferably female because ive asked my male friends) would be helpful thank you

My fiance wants me to change my name to what HE wants 

Hi Reddit. I, (23f) have been dating my fiance (23m) for seven years. We have been living together for 4 years and have a dog together. We were officially engaged 2 years ago, but due to covid we have only now started planning the wedding. I've never wanted to change my name. I like my name, and my family is important to me. I jokingly suggested he take my name, and it upset him greatly, so I knew this would be a touchy subject. He comes from a very traditional family,and while he is usually open minded, some things upset him, like this. When the name change came up, I suggested I take a hyphenated name. He immediately vetoed that. Finally after a lot of back and forth he finally snapped that as the man, he shouldn't have to change his name at all, it's traditional that I take his name, and why do I even want to marry him since I hate his name so much? I said no, I don't hate your name. But it's unfair to only change mine. If I change my name to your name, which I'm fine with, I just want to keep some of my family with me. He said that shows that I'm not committed to him,and he's been upset and moody and won't talk to me for the last 24 hours. What do I do?

REBECCA STATS report

They Have A Boyfriend

Relationship questions are a highway and the Roommate Lovers want to ride it all night long. 

Questions include: 

• Should I wish my ex a happy birthday?

• Can I tell my friend whose in a relationship that I am in love with her?

• Can touch screens work through paper?

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Questions and topics this episode:

VOICEMAIL:

K and M, it's Rolo again. I have a back up to the previous question I just asked. So the person I have a crush on — I'm aware that they have a boyfriend, with I’m like that's fine cuz they're not married. Is that a bad thing? Am I being a bad person? But. They're only dating BUT theyr’e not engaged. BUT I already described the person to my roommate has the most beautiful person I've ever seen em, I don't know. Is it worth it?

Dear Abby:

Three years ago, I married for a second time, thinking I would have companionship for the rest of my life, but I was wrong. All Carl wanted was a cook and a housekeeper. He always wants to go visit his children and grandchildren. Never mine. Not only that, but he is very close with a dollar. He has a lot more than I have, and he doesn’t spend any of his. Only mine. We live in my house, and I pay the taxes and upkeep while he hangs on to his money which he will leave to his children. I am sixty-four. What would you advise—a separation? 

• Nettie

If someone says they've "adopted you as a friend for a day", do they actually want to be friends or are they just bored?

they said that "they adopt a new person every day" and that lowkey made me kind of sad because I genuinely thought they liked me lmao

Can I wish happy birthday to ex? 

Can I wish happy birthday to my ex boyfriend who cheated on me ??

Is it okay if I don’t wish??

ANSWERBAG.COM

Can touch screens work through paper?

I am able to use my Kindle Fire HD and Samsung Galaxy Luna Pro Phone through paper. Am I telekinetic possibly?

POKEDEX entries

Staryu & Tentacool

SMASH OR REALLY SMASH segment

Kristen Stewart, Jennifer Anniston, Golden Mario, Harrison Ford, Frankenstein

Alexa, Stop

Another ep in the bag folks, and by bag, we mean your ears, and by ears we mean hearts. 

The couple answer questions including:

• What is love?

• How do I get my husband to have sex with me?

• Is it ok for an unnamed fiance to get a parking ticket while driving their partner’s car?

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*** VISIT OUR HOMEPAGE if you like stuff and shit. 

Produced by Maggie Smith, Kyle Mantegna, Alex Romero, Mariah Michael, Clark Pavlik. Narrated by Beth Kuhn. Theme Music by Kyle Mantegna & Maggie Smith. Edit Kyle Mantegna. 

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Questions this episode:

Dear Abby:

I have a marriage license signed by two witnesses, so I must be married, although at times I’m not so sure. My husband has not come near me in I don’t know how long. When I snuggle up to him for a little affection, he says “don’t bother me, I’m tired.” Or, “Not now, it’s too late.”  I’m no slob, Abby. I’m attractive, clean, and I’ve kept my figure. I’m 32 and he’s 34 and we both may as well be 90. I watch television in bed till my eyes fall out, but there’s got to be more to marriage than this!

• No Love in Pittsburgh

I (23F) licked my date's (24M) finger and worried I really upset him

I  went on a date with Evan last week. It was our second date and at an outdoor drive-thru movie place. We have known each other for about a year before this, for context. We got some concessions at the concessions stand and I asked for 2 snickers and a large popcorn. 

When we got back to the car, I started crumbling them up and he asked what I was doing. I said I like to mix in snickers bits with my popcorn and get a nice sweet and salty mix. Normally when I do this sometimes I get a strong reaction from people, but he actually said it tasted pretty good and he's surprised he didn't try it earlier. Now for the problem.

    After eating some of the mix for a little bit, he laughed and said he understood now why he didn't do it before and held up his sticky fingers. I said yeah, honestly I end up licking them a lot because the chocolate and caramel get everywhere. I licked my fingers and then jokingly took one of his and tried to lick it. I was mostly joking and thought he would pull away but I guess I caught him off guard and I ended up actually licking it. I tried to blow it off by opening my mouth super wide and pretending like I was gonna eat it whole but he wasn't laughing. 

I gave him a napkin and some hand sanitizer but after that he got really quiet. The date was going pretty well up until that point, he had his arm around me, we were laughing, and enjoying the movie. But his body language changed, he didn't really say much for the rest of the data and turned his whole body away from me. He kissed me on the cheek at the end of the date but has been pretty silent since then. I asked him if he was okay and he said everything was fine but it didn't seem like it.

Are Dwayne Johnson and Vin Diesel two different people??!? 

I was just wondering "oh it's the rock's name dwayne johnson or vin diesel?" so I googled vin diesel, then I googled dwayne johnson, then googled both and I see them both in the same picture?? how did I never realize they were two different persons??? my whole life feels like a lie

Does anybody understand the concept of Love? If so, can you please explain? 

I simply don't understand how complicated love apparently is. People say that there are different types of love such as romantic, platonic, familial, etc? People also say that love is in amounts? Anytime I try to get someone to explain to me how this make sense, they can't explain it in a way that makes sense. People feeling like knowing them for longer or hanging our more means they should matter MORE to me or something, or people wanting to date me but they can't explain how that means anything different that just being friends are problems that my inablility to understand is causing.

-Banjo Kazooie sound effects game

-Kyle got Maggie a parking ticket

Smash Or Pass?

Hugh Jackman has nothing on THIS. Because THIS is the greatest show, man. Haha get it?

Questions include: 

• What terms should we know?

• Dating a comedian?

• SMASH OR PASS?!!

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Alias:  *Florida man again

Where are you writing us from?  Florida

I’m still a boomer. Just found out that poly is a thing and what it is. Is there any other definitions relationship wise that I need to be filled in on??? I feel like dating life has changed these past 8 years. Is there a book I can read to catch up on this shit? Any tips to catch me up? 

VOICEMAIL:

Kyle Mantegna, Maggie Smith - Rolando back here again. I have another question. I am currently single like I mentioned before. I have a crush on someone who happens to be a comedian just like me. The issue is I have had bad luck dating other comedians. Should I squash it off? Or should I follow his urge? I am lonely. Bye!

My (27F) boyfriend (27M) needs more time to decide whether to propose even though we’ve been together for 5 years. Is it time to leave?

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years now. I have repeatedly told him that marriage is something I want, and that I have always picture myself getting married in the future. I have also expressed to him that I want to marry him, and I do not see myself being with anyone else. He shares the same desire in that he too wants to get married to someone one day.

My boyfriend has repeatedly said he loves me, he wants a future with me, but he’s just not where I am in the relationship. He said he needs the next year to decide whether he wants to marry me, or whether he needs to leave me as those are the only two options left. He also said he would need time to plan a proposal after he decides, so it’s looking more like two years before I get engaged. 

The idea of being in a relationship for 7 years without being engaged makes me nauseous. I told him I don’t need a ring, but I want at least some verbal commitment that he wants to marry me one day. He told me that if he gives me a verbal commitment, that’s the same thing as getting down on one knee, so he may as well just propose at that point. I disagree with that notion, but his opinion won’t change. 

The bottom line is that I hate feeling constantly insecure about my relationship. I hate feeling less loved. BUT I don’t want to become a stereotype — a woman who forces her boyfriend into proposing via an ultimatum. So, it will be on me to decide whether to wait it out for something that may never come, or to leave. But how will I know when it’s time to leave?

My housemate (33M) never cleans around the house and pees on the bathroom floor. My boyfriend (33M) won't let me (30F) talk to him about it

So about a year ago I moved in with my boyfriend who was already living with his friends (a couple and a single guy who I'll call Doug). We're all in our 30s but it feels like Doug still behaves like a child living with his parents. In the entire time I've lived here I have only seen him doing the vaccuming once and that was odd enough because someone had literally just done it a few hours prior (it's usually done once a week by whoever feels like doing it). The only thing he cleans is the one plate and cutlery he uses. He never cleans up any crumbs he's left in the kitchen. He has never mowed the lawns or weeded the garden which is something required in our rent agreement.

But the thing that really pisses me off is that very often he will leave pee on the bathroom floor. Enough that I have to check where I step every time I go into the bathroom. I feel like I'm always grabbing the mop to clean up after this grown ass man. He's never once cleaned the toilet or shower while I've lived there. That's always left to my boyfriend or me. I did try just leaving the mop by the toilet for a few weeks as a not so subtle hint but it remained unused and the bathroom just ended up stinking of concentrated dried pee. Also in case anyone's thinking it, it's definitely not my boyfriend peeing on the floor haha. Whenever we are away for a visiting family for a few days, we always come back to find pee on the floor.

When I first started noticing all this stuff I mentioned it to my boyfriend who has insisted that I don't to speak to Doug because Doug suffers from depression and I guess he doesn't want Doug to feel embarrassed and for things to be awkward. When he's not in work, Doug just stays in his room gaming all day. While I don't deny Dougs depression, he does seem to be in a really good place lately and is even going out on dates. I feel like it's mostly just laziness at this stage and I don't understand why he doesn't get called out on not contributing to household chores at all. Anyone deal with a similar situation before?

Florida Man

In this episode, our adventurers slay the Question Dragon using the legendary Answer Sword (patent pending). 

Questions include: 

• How to use dating apps

• How to flip your underwear

• Ex-Mrs. John Doe cocktail invites

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Questions asked:

I got in I fight. what do I do

I got in a fight. It was only a few moments but it was my first fight. I'm currently in the vice principals office waiting for my mom and I'm scared. Please help 

When you realize halfway through the day that your underwear is inside out, what do you do?

If I realize halfway through my day that my underwear is inside out, do I fix it for the second part of the day, or should I leave it as is?

Alias:  Florida Man

Where are you writing us from? 

The beach

Dear roommate lovers, I’m staring to feel like a boomer. Hitting the open dating scene for the first time in 8 years and I have to use these apps and shit. Girls in public have their guard way up these days. Any advise on finding Mrs Florida Man?

Dear Abby: I recently perceive an invitation which read: “The old Mrs. John Doe requests the pleasure of your company at cocktails and supper for the new Mrs. John Doe, etc.” It floored me. I knew our friends John anf Mary Doe had gotten a quickie Mexican divorce , and it was rumored that John was interested in a lady from New York , but how about this?”

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How do you balance the need for down time / alone time with a partner ?

All I wanted to do was watch Cobra Kai and unwind but my GF kept asking me things.

This is esp an issue on the weekends too. I need alone time and down time.

Is this just life now ?

Been In Love Three Times

They're back and they're better than Batman Forever. 

Questions include: How many times can you be in love, how to start a conversation, and is Blues Brothers a Christmas movie?

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QUESTIONS THIS EP:

VOICEMAIL:

Kyle, Maggie — Rolando back here again. I have another question. So I'm a single man and I'm dating and I have mentioned before that I have been in love three times. So my question is — is being in love three times too much and should you bring that up in a conversation?

ALIAS: Out of topics

FROM: The North Pole

Help. My father is incapable or carrying a conversation and I am staying at home with my folks for 2 weeks around Christmas. I need conversation topics to avoid those long awkward silences.

REDDIT: AITA for asking my girlfriend to get off the couch and go to bed? 

Ok so typical scenario. I'm upstairs working from home for 10 hours. I come down stairs to my girlfriend and our two small dogs on the sofa.

We watch 90 day fiance for a couple of hours and laugh at the idiots on there. Good times. 

A while goes by and she's asleep, with me jammed into the end of the sofa, with her feet on my lap, dogs cozy amongst us, and I'm SWEATING. At this point I am ready to play some games and get comfortable myself and so I gently wake her up and say "baby would you like me to help you to bed?"

And she groggily says yes but just continues to lay there. So I'm like "come on babe we gotta get you to bed I'm really uncomfortable, we have nowhere for me to sit. If you want to lay down let's get you to do so in bed. "

At this point she gets reaaaaaally mad and calls me rude and so I ask is it fair for me to have nowhere to sit? And she tells me I can sit at the end of the couch. I felt like Michael Scott on the dinner party episode of the office when Jan shows his sleeping area at the foot of their bed.

REDDIT: AITA for telling my husband to stop what he’s doing and, “open the F-ing jar”? 

In my defense I had just finished a 12 hour shift and was already tired. 

I was making my husbands dinner, and I needed him to help me open the tomato sauce. I asked him if he could help me. He said, “hold on” as he watched tv. I waited probably a minute until it went to commercial. Then I brought the jar to him and asked if he could open it. He reached for it, and then got a text or some sort of notification which caused him to pull out his phone and after watching him play on his phone for probably 20-30 seconds. I told him to help me. And he said, “I’m busy doing something, hold on a minute”. So I told him to, “stop what you’re doing, and just open the F-ing Jar!”.

How To Say I'm Sorry

In this episode, the Roommate Lovers are giving out advice like it’s their job. And if you support them on Patreon, it is. 

Questions include: How to unfollow your ex on Instagram, how to hide food, and the 5 apology languages. 

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How To Give The Perfect Gift And Stuff

This episode is one for the history books, folks, cuz the Roommate Lovers are joined by Maggie’s friggin’ brother, Sam, who is definitely way cooler than them. 

Questions include: How to handle a jerk during DnD, the right way to count cars, and how to quit a band you didn't want to even be in.

To see Sam’s storyboarding,  go to https://newyorkstoryboards.com/ and friggin’ hire him for your storyboards and other art shit. He’s so good, it’s kind of annoying. 

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QUESTIONS ASKED:

VOICEMAIL:

Hi roommate lovers. This is Caitlin McCallister calling, long time listener first-time caller. I wanted to get help here because my husband and I have been fighting over a stupid game that we invented that we live in a house where there are lots of cars parked out front and occasionally people stand outside and take photos in front of our home. It's very strange, but we're not sure why they do this but we've made a stupid game out of it. And so I want to get your take on when we say so so it's just it's 3 a.m. Every morning when we wake up and we look outside our window. We ask each other. All right, how many cars are going to be there now when I say that my mentality is if we're thinking cars they have to be cars that are actively running and perks. They're dead people standing out front. Like they can't just be the cars that are parked out front for those beavers cuz that's they're not they're they're naturally they're not they're intentionally, but my husband on the other hand says well all of birth. Out here. So they count my question to you is could you please help assist me in getting my husband to understand that when we're playing this game. We're actually counting the card that are actively offer our home and not including our neighbor Parts cuz we that's cheating. That would be great, you know kept rep.

REDDIT: AITA for ruining my fiancé's DND game?  

My fiancé (29 M) plays DnD, and while it's not my (31 F) thing, I obviously don't mind. He's a bit anxious and doesn't easily make friends. He was so excited when he joined a DnD group and met new people. I like the group members, except for Chris who's kind of frat-ish. He constantly makes disparaging "jokes" about his wife. He calls her "the Old Ball and Chain" unironically and says shit like, "I gotta call the Warden and ask for permission first." I don't know why a twenty-something man talks like a 1950s oil tycoon, but here we are. He also doesn't contribute when people bring communal snacks to DnD.

Which brings me to my point. I don't drink often, but I will sometimes buy a nice bottle of vodka (~$50) . A serving on the rocks makes me feel like an adult in a way I can neither explain nor justify. When we have guests over, we set out assorted drinks/snacks/etc. If they want something specific, they have to bring it or ask.

Awhile ago, Fiancé held a DnD session at our house. I greeted everyone and then made myself scarce. Later, I came out only to find Chris in our kitchen, opening my new vodka. I told him, "Hey, I thought we told you, but you're supposed to ask first. That's not for guests. It's a bit pricey."

Instead of addressing me, Chris turned to Fiancé and said, "What's hers is yours, right? Welcome to marriage!" I was floored. Chris then said, "You don't mind me having some, right?" And poured before I could answer. The group was waiting on him to resume playing, so I let it go (my first mistake, for those keeping score.) After everyone left, Fiancé confirmed that Chris hadn't asked him either before taking my vodka.

This past weekend, DnD happened again. I came out to get some water, and Chris was once again helping himself to my vodka. But here's what totally broke my brain: Chris had BYOB'd, and yet he was still drinking mine.

I marched right over and complained. Chris either ignored me or didn't hear, so I asked why he was taking mine when he'd brought his own. He said mine was "nicer" and "You don't have to be such a bitch about it. It's a little vodka. Are you an alcoholic or are you just cheap?"

I told him to leave. Not politely. Chris kept saying "this is bullshit" over and over, collected his stuff, and stormed out. After, things were very awkward. The group agreed he shouldn't have called me a bitch, but well ... Chris was the DM. I don't know a lot about DnD, but without him, there's no game. They have to either keep playing somewhere else with him or start a new campaign that excludes him. Everyone asked me if he's banished forever or if he can come back to our house, and I didn't know what to tell them. I would let Chris back if he apologized, but somehow I don't think I should hold my breath.

I feel really bad. Fiancé was so excited about this game, and I may have ended it. Fiancé supports me, ftr, but he's worried Chris will cause future problems. AITA?

DEAR ABBY: I’m a musician — a bass guitar player. I’ve been playing for more than 50 years and have been told I’m very good. My problem is my neighbor. He plays guitar and writes songs, neither of which he does well.

From time to time, I’ll help him out by laying down the bass track for his songs. But lately he has begun referring to me as “my bass player.” I don’t WANT to be his bass player. I get no enjoyment from playing with him.

I try my best to avoid him now because he constantly asks me to play. Most of the time, I give him some lame excuse to avoid it. Is there any way I can get out of playing without telling him how I feel about his music? — NOT HIS BASS PLAYER

Was This A Date?

This week, the sweet potato twosome are doling out side dishes like there's no tomorrow. Second servings guaranteed.  

Questions include: Top 5 worst first date spots, how to tell someone you like them after you said you didn't, and Maggie and Kyle pick ONE song from the last three decades (things get Toxic).

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Questions asked:

REDDIT: Was this a date?

Freshman in college here.

There's this cute girl  in my class that I've talked to a bit throughout the semester and I got her number as a friend. We text occasionally. Anyways, a week ago I went to class and she was hella chatty to me. She's usually pretty quiet with most everyone in that class.

I noticed throughout class that she kept glancing at me, like straight up turning her head 100 degrees and quickly looking away when I looked. I sit behind her in class. She looked at me probably 20 times. She also said "bye, ill see you later" to only me when class was over. Since then, we've texted on and off more or less out of the blue.

We now speak quite a bit. She laughs at literally everything I say and is always smiling with me. Additionally, she agrees with me like... way too much.

I asked her to coffee and she said she'd love to. Today, we met up and we spoke a bunch and she was her usual self. I ended up playing piano for her and it was all around nice. I only wonder if that was a date- or did she see it as a friend thing?

When she left, she said she had a good time and enjoyed hearing me play piano. I said we should do this again sometime and she said totally. Was that a date? Wtf is happening

LIST:

Top 5 places NOT to go on a FIRST DATE -- from InClub Magazine

REDDIT: AITA for telling my friend that Michael Scott from the Office gets assassinated at the end? 

My friend/roomie has never seen the office before. I decided that it would be funny to convince him that someone murdered Micheal at the end

We are on season 4 right now and he’s believing everything I say lol. 

Am I an asshole for wanting to do this? I’ve seen the office at least 7-8 times now and I just thought it would make things very interesting and funny.

You can only listen to music from one calendar year in the past. What year and what are you listening to?

J-14:
Q: My friend is everything I’ve ever wanted in a bf. The thing is, we joke around a lot and I think some of my jokes have convinced him that I don’t like him as anything more than a friend. How do I show him how I really feel? - Kaley, 15

Episode Forty-One (Taylor's Version)

We knew you were trouble when you wrote in, but that didn't stop the Roommate Lovers from answering. 

It's a Love Story so, baby, just say "yes" (to downloading this episode). 

Questions include: Playing multiple D&D games at the same time, snoring husbands, and a follow-up from Rolando. 

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QUESTIONS:

VOICEMAIL: 

Kyle Maggie, this is Rolando, the original roommate lover. So I heard your episode. It's 6:54 in the morning, and I just wanted to give you a little more context regarding my question. So let me repeat it one more time. I have a former friend, who then became a lover, then became a friend. And now they want to hang out with me cuz I moved to the new city of Los Angeles, California on the west coast, but when we were friends again after being lovers, it wasn't a good experience because - and I remember telling her this - you didn't want to be with me. Do you want to be my friend but you're actually being a bad friend when I need you there, to be as a friend you weren't there. So what are we doing now? It's been many years later. They want to talk to me. I'm going to reach out and I'm just like, I don't know. What's the point? I just feel like they're going to disappoint me again. That's my question. All right. Have a great morning. I'm parked now.

REDDIT: 

AITA for wanting my girlfriend to stay focused on my dnd sessions when we play every saturday and not be in other sessions at the same time? 

I dm a dnd group every saturday over discord. My girlfriend is one of my players. She’s a dnd addict who loves to roleplay and because she’s currently unemployed she has time to be involved in several campaigns at once. Now I work really hard to make my sessions good for everyone, and every Saturday we gather on my discord server to play. And every saturday without fail she plays her character on my server and at the same time she’s in my game she’s playing on other discord servers in other games. At first I let it go, but now its starting to feel disrespectful. Last session she was in my game and at the same time started roleplaying in another game, and her character in the other game died. And she was so distraught by it that she was too shook up and was basically MIA for the entirety of my session. I wanted to say that, “if you had just focused on one thing instead of constantly trying to do it at once then your character would still be alive.” But I didn’t say that because that would have just been petty. 

I did gently try to point out to her that she keeps doing this. And her response was, “this is how I am.” As in this is how it is I have to deal with it. Like seriously, all of my other players in the party are part of other games too, they have no issue at all giving me their undivided attention for 4 hours on a saturday. Am I the asshole for asking my girlfriend to pay me the same courtesy?

REDDIT: 

What is the most inappropriate song to play at a funeral?

VOICEMAIL:

Hi, Maggie and Kyle, this is Bob from Chicago. I'm calling cuz I have a crush on this girl. I work with and one is some advice on how I should approach the situation. I'm pretty sure she's got high interest in me, but I'm not quite sure and I don't want to try to force the situation by just always appearing in her department. Just wondered if you had any tips on how i should try to get her, to find out if she's actually romantically interested in me or not.

DEAR ABBY QUESTION

It's My Mario Party And I'll Cry If I Want To

Lordy lordy, it’s episode 40.  And just like a 40-year-old person, it is full of bad puns.  

Topics include: how to handle Mario Party fights, forgetting your boyfriend's name, and special phone-a-friend guest Paula Skaggs! 

• Check out the game No Wrong Answers!

• And for more Paula, please check out her podcast Being Earnest.

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QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE:

Voicemail: 

Hi, this is Rolando first initial R last name ____ last name initial L. My question is do I have a friend who wants to hang out one because I just moved to the new city of Los Angeles. The issue is off work friends. Then we became lovers then we became friends but and didn't work out many years passed and now they want to become friends again. Is that a good idea? I should have any advise. That's it.

REDDIT: She said she doesnt remember my name, wtf? 

Me and my gf have been together for 6 months, she calls me by a few nicknames, I call her by some too but I never thought that she called me by those nicknames because she literally doesnt know my name. Im speechless. I was having a few doubts about a few things in our relationship, so I took advice from some people and I went on to talk to her, we sorted almost everything out and then I tried to lighten the conversation by telling her the name of a guy that sounded funny, I asked her if she thought my name was funny. She made excuses that she was feeling tired, tried to divert the conversation to a different topic but when I asked again she told me she doesnt know what my name is. I asked her if she was kidding and she said she was not. She left an hour or so ago and now Im genuinely having a WTF moment. She said it was because she was forgetful and doesnt remember names well. But how is that even possible, to "forget" your own bf's name whom she's been with for 6months.. She sounded so casual about it.. is this a common thing in relationships?

REDDIT: AITA For beating my girlfriend in Mario Party and bragging about it 

My girlfriend (28) and I (30) have been together for 5 months and met in college. We don’t usually fight but what we do is make up before heading to bed. The situation from last night concerns me. I just recently bought a switch with mario party because I used to play that game with my buddies and this is my girlfriend’s first time playing a switch game. I asked my girlfriend to play with me on our date night. We were getting competitive with each other and I noticed she was winning so I decided to sabotage her by stealing her coins and stars the whole time. I ended up winning the game and I decided to rub it in her face to tease her. She got her feelings hurt and she decided to go home without saying anything to me. Its been 24 hours and shes not answering my calls. I dont think I did anything wrong and I think shes taking it personally but AITA?

REDDIT: AITA for getting upset at this game of monopoly?

I had 3 railroads and a single orange property. I wanted to trade my 3 railroads for the other two oranges. The person with the oranges refused, but was trying to trade the two oranges for the last yellow they needed for a monopoly.

The guy with the yellow refused, so I offered my three railroads for the yellow, which was accepted. I then tried to trade the yellow for the two oranges, but was then told that she wanted the railroads. I got a bit upset at this, and she told me that’s how the game is played, and she was still weighing her options. She refused the yellow which is what she wanted in the first place...

Am I the asshole for getting upset and quitting the game after having made a horrible trade that I had expected to get me to a better trade?

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Spooky Scary Pick-Up Lines

Trick or treat, the RLs are giving out advice like it's day-after-Halloween sale candy.

Questions include: sharing a bed with your girlfriend's dog, how to stop being friends with someone, and some spooky scary pick-up lines.

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 QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE:

Alias: Euro tripper 

In: Richmond, VA

I’ve been with my girlfriend for two years now…yes mostly in a pandemic. I missed travel so bad, and I want to take her on a little Euro vacation together now that we are vaxxed and feel safe to do so. She’s never been outside the country…and now that I’m planning this, she said she’s down to go but honestly doesn’t seem to care all that much. Roommate Lovers, how to i ease her into this vacay and get her excited about travel?

REDDIT: 

What's the best Halloween pick-up lines?

REDDIT:

How do I end a friendship?

So there’s this girl I once went to school with but eventually, we both had to change schools. We still text each other from time to time but she keeps asking me to go out. I haven’t seen her in a while but I’m not the type to go out, in fact, I hate going out. I don’t like friendships tbh, not that I hate them but I have more fun by myself. I love being by myself. Everyone is different ig. So what do i do now? Should I just block her?

Voicemail:

 My dog tries to take over the bed from my boyfriend. How should he go about dealing with his delicate relationship? 

DEAR ABBY, 1973: We are two girls who are having a big argument. She's 17 and I'm 18. She's a virgin and I'm not, and she says a guy can tell whether a girl is a virgin or not by the way she walks. I say a girl doesn't walk any differently after she's gone all the way with a guy than she did before. We'll be looking for your answer. -WAITING IN COLORADO

War Of The World's Worst Roommate

We interrupt your regularly scheduled programing to bring you this startling, otherworldly news story. 

(Can you find all the Roommate Lovers references?)

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Special Appearances in this War Of The Worlds parody by Jesse Swanson and Andrew Newton. Produced by Maggie Smith, Kyle Mantegna, Alex Romero, Mariah Michael, Clark Pavlik. Narrated by Beth Kuhn. Theme Music by Kyle Mantegna & Maggie Smith. Edit Kyle Mantegna.